Period sex: It's already taboo enough. But with the growing popularity of sustainable period products like menstrual cups, you may have found yourself wondering if it's okay to have intercourse while using one. First off, there’s absolutely no reason to feel awkward or ashamed about having sex during your period. It’s totally natural, and lots of people enjoy it without any issues. However, adding a menstrual cup into the mix does come with its own set of things to consider.
You’ve probably heard whispers that using a menstrual cup can make period sex less "messy." And while that may be true for non-penetrative sex, it doesn’t completely eliminate it. Like all sex, the experience will depend on your body, the type of cup you use, and the style of intimacy. It’s all about finding what works for you!
But first, what is a menstrual cup?
Before we dive into the logistics of sex with a menstrual cup, let's quickly recap what these nifty little devices are. Menstrual cups are small, flexible cups typically made of medical-grade silicone that are inserted into the vagina to collect menstrual flow. They've gained traction in recent years due to their eco-friendly nature, cost-effectiveness, and convenience.
Unlike tampons or pads, menstrual cups can be worn for up to 12 hours, depending on your flow. They sit lower in the vaginal canal than tampons and create a seal against the vaginal walls to prevent leaks. This positioning is crucial to understand when considering sexual activity.
The mechanics of sex with a menstrual cup
Now, let's address the elephant in the room: Is it physically possible to have penetrative sex while wearing a menstrual cup? The short answer is no, at least not comfortably or safely. Most traditional menstrual cups, like the silicone ones that sit inside your vaginal canal, are not designed to be worn during penetrative sex, as they can be uncomfortable for both partners and may even cause leakage. Definitely not the sexy scenario most of us envision!
If you're set on penetrative sex during your period but still want the benefits of an internal menstrual product, you might want to consider a menstrual disc, like the Flex or Softdisc, instead. Unlike cups, discs sit higher in the vaginal fornix (the widest part of the vagina), and are made to stay in place during intercourse, which reduces mess while offering the same benefits of a regular menstrual cup.
As you’re considering it, it’s always good to experiment with what feels comfortable for you and your partner. Just be aware that neither menstrual cups nor discs serve as a form of birth control or protection against STIs.
Other ways to enjoy sex during your period
If menstrual discs aren't necessarily your thing, this still doesn't mean that all sexual activity is off the table. There are plenty of ways to enjoy intimacy and pleasure during your period, with or without your menstrual cup.
If you're comfortable with removing your cup for sex, that's certainly an option. You can take it out, engage in penetrative sex, and then reinsert the cup afterward. Just remember to wash your hands thoroughly before reinsertion to minimize the risk of infection.
For those who prefer to keep their cup in place, there are numerous other ways to be intimate. Mutual masturbation, oral sex (focusing on the clitoris rather than penetration), and using sex toys externally are all great alternatives. Some couples even find that the heightened sensitivity many women experience during menstruation can lead to particularly enjoyable non-penetrative sexual experiences.
Hygiene and health considerations
Regardless of how you choose to approach sex during your period, it's crucial to maintain proper hygiene practices. This is especially important if you're removing and reinserting a menstrual cup.
Always wash your hands thoroughly before and after handling your cup or engaging in sexual activity. If you're removing your cup for sex, make sure to clean it properly before reinsertion. Most importantly, listen to your body. If something doesn't feel right, stop and reassess.
Communication is key
As with all aspects of sexual health, open and honest communication with your partner is essential. Discuss your comfort levels, preferences, and any concerns you might have about sex during menstruation. Remember, there's no "right" or "wrong" way to approach this; it's all about what feels good to you and your partner.
So go forth, explore, and celebrate your body in all its phases — menstrual cup, period sex, and all! After all, that's what sexual empowerment is all about.
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Kristyn Hodgdon is the Co-Founder and Chief Creative Officer at Rescripted.