Have you ever wondered why you feel on top of the world one week and ready to hibernate the next? As women, many of us experience emotional highs and lows throughout the month, and it all ties back to one thing — our menstrual cycle.

More than just a monthly event, our cycle is a delicate interplay of hormones that profoundly affects both our bodies and minds. By understanding the phases and how they shape our moods, we can better navigate and embrace our emotional shifts from week to week. 

Now let's dive into how each of the four phases of the menstrual cycle can influence the way we feel.

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Phase 1: Menstruation aka your period

The menstrual phase marks the beginning of our cycle, typically lasting 3-7 days. During this time, hormone levels are at their lowest, which can lead to feelings of fatigue, introversion, and even mild depression for some women. It's important to keep in mind that these feelings are normal and temporary.

Many people report feeling a sense of relief as their period begins, both physically and emotionally. This phase can be an excellent time for self-reflection and gentle self-care. Don't be surprised if you find yourself craving more alone time or feeling less social than usual. Listen to your body and honor its needs.

While some may experience mood swings or irritability during this phase, others might feel a sense of renewal and clarity. Remember, there's no "right" way to feel — your experience is uniquely yours. If you find that your menstrual symptoms significantly impact your daily life don't hesitate to speak with your OB/GYN or PCP about potential solutions.

Phase 2: The follicular phase 

As menstruation ends, we enter the follicular phase, which lasts about 7-10 days. During this time, estrogen levels begin to rise, often bringing with it a boost in mood, energy, and confidence. Many women report feeling more optimistic, creative, and socially outgoing during this phase.

This surge in positivity isn't just in your head — it's backed by science! The increase in estrogen is associated with higher levels of serotonin, often called the "feel-good" neurotransmitter. Take advantage of this natural high by tackling new projects, socializing with friends, or trying out that new hobby you've been considering.

However, know that while many people experience these positive effects, not everyone will feel the same way. If you don't notice a significant mood boost during this phase, that's perfectly okay too. Our bodies are all different, and what matters most is understanding and accepting your own patterns.

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Phase 3: Ovulation

Ovulation typically occurs around day 14 of a 28-day cycle, although this can vary from person to person. This phase is characterized by a surge in both estrogen and testosterone, often resulting in peak energy levels, heightened libido, and increased confidence.

Many women report feeling their most attractive and charismatic during ovulation. You might notice that you're more inclined to socialize, take risks, or assert yourself in various situations. This natural boost in confidence can be a great time to schedule important meetings, go on dates, or tackle challenging tasks.

It's worth noting that some people may experience mild discomfort or mood changes during ovulation, such as irritability or anxiety. As always, paying attention to your body's signals and honoring your feelings is crucial. If you experience severe pain or mood swings during ovulation, it's important to consult with a healthcare provider.

Phase 4: The luteal phase (hello, PMS!)

The luteal phase is often the most difficult in terms of mood. This phase lasts about 10-14 days and is characterized by a drop in estrogen and a rise in progesterone. As we approach menstruation, many people experience symptoms associated with Premenstrual Syndrome, or PMS. 

During this phase, you might notice increased irritability, anxiety, or mood swings. Some individuals also report feeling more emotional or prone to crying. It's essential to remember that these feelings are valid and temporary. Practice self-compassion and remind yourself that this, too, shall pass.

While PMS symptoms can be challenging, there are ways to manage them. Regular exercise, a balanced diet, and stress-reduction techniques like meditation or yoga can help alleviate some of the emotional turbulence. Hang in there; you've got this! And when all else fails, there's always ice cream. 

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Embracing your cycle

Whether you're feeling more bloated or less social than usual, by recognizing which phase of the menstrual cycle you're in at any given time, you can better prepare for and navigate the emotional landscape of your week. Consider keeping a journal or using a period-tracking app to note your emotional states throughout the month. This can help you identify patterns and better understand your body's natural rhythms.

Above all, be kind to yourself. Your menstrual cycle is an integral (and powerful) part of you. By embracing its ebbs and flows, you can harness its strengths and navigate its challenges with greater ease and self-compassion. You're not alone in this journey — millions of women around the world are cycling right alongside you, which is kind of beautiful. 


Kristyn Hodgdon is the Co-Founder and Chief Creative Officer at Rescripted.