Wait, We're Still Doing the Surrogacy Shaming Thing in 2026?

So Meghan Trainor recently welcomed her third baby, and when announcing the baby's birth, the singer revealed that the baby was born via surrogate. 

Cue the opinions of the masses. Because any time a woman makes a choice around her own life, motherhood, and body...well, that's ripe for public criticism, right?

A few of the comments on Trainor's post include statements like "surrogacy shouldn’t be a thing. it is not ok to exploit women for their wombs" and "poor baby and mom. This is so dystopian and unnatural". One commenter asks: "How have we, as a society, come to normalize this?"

To which I ask: How have we, as a society, come to normalize being so judgmental of women and the reproductive decisions they make?

Trainor doesn't owe the public answers, but she does provide a bit of context.

"It wasn’t our first choice, but we had endless conversations with our doctors on this journey, and this was the safest way for us to be able to continue growing our family," she tells PEOPLE. "We are forever grateful for that option."

A lot of people are assuming that Trainor, who many people speculate is on Ozempic, turned to surrogacy to avoid pregnancy weight gain. We don't have the answers as to why exactly Trainor went the surrogacy route. We also don't deserve them. 

But what we need to remember is this. Trainor has written about suffering PTSD after delivering her son. Maybe that's a "good enough" reason for her to pursue surrogacy for some people, but here's the thing: We don't get to make those decisions. It doesn't matter if we deem her reasons "vain" or "valid". Because at the end of the day, it's not our body, not our baby, not our business.