Women's Health, Your Way

Ask & Search With Clara

Welcome to a new standard for women's health answers.

GIRLHOOD / When the Tea Is This Hot, You Can’t Help but Sip

When the Tea Is This Hot, You Can’t Help but Sip

When the Tea Is This Hot, You Can’t Help but Sip

As someone who has spent the better part of the past 22 days away from social media (thank you, Opal app), I picked a truly chaotic week to check back in. I opened Instagram and immediately felt like I’d missed several chapters of a very loud book. The Blake Lively / Justin Baldoni situation had escalated straight into the text messages, Brooklyn Beckham had turned his Instagram Story into a family tell-all, Taylor Swift was somehow involved (of course), and everyone seemed extremely confident about which side they were on.

What surprised me is that I didn’t feel the urge to dogpile Justin Baldoni the way I expected to. Truthfully, I’ve kind of always been on his side — not in an “I don’t believe women” way, but in a harder-to-explain, this doesn’t sit right with me way.

If anything, Blake Lively’s energy doesn’t land for me. She exudes a kind of mean-girl confidence that isn’t just cringeworthy on paper (see: her unhinged letter to the PGA), but shows up in subtle power moves and perfectly timed charm. The kind you’ve probably encountered at work, at school drop-off, or in a group chat you eventually muted for your own mental health.

Then Taylor Swift entered the conversation, which added a whole other layer. Listen, I totally understand defending your BFF, but when someone’s brand is built on calling things out and advocating for women, people notice when behavior feels misaligned. That doesn’t erase the good, but it does make the moment harder to swallow.

Meanwhile, Brooklyn Beckham’s Instagram Story was doing something else entirely — less polished, less strategic, and impossible to unsee. Different situation, same energy: carefully curated images cracking in real time, with no PR buffer in sight.

What I actually appreciate is that none of this is being quietly swept under the rug. People are allowed to say something feels off now, without being accused of betraying womanhood or missing the point.

And yes, it’s entertaining. I’m not above admitting that. But it’s also revealing. Watching who gets defended, who gets dismissed, and who becomes untouchable says a lot about how power still works, even in spaces that claim progress.

Celebrities aren’t messier than they used to be. We’re just less willing to play along. The tea is piping hot — and for once, it actually feels like it’s saying something.

More from GIRLHOOD

By now you've probably seen the clip of Steven Bartlett, host of Diary of a CEO, casually mentioning on a podcast that two glasses of wine — he didn't even... Read more
Earlier this week, my co-founder Abby sent me this article by Dr. Brian Levine, along with a clapping hands emoji. Finally, someone had said it: at least part of the... Read more
I speak about this so often it probably makes people uncomfortable, but I lost one of my very best friends to breast cancer six years ago, at the way-too-tender age... Read more
I finished reading Strangers by Belle Burden over the weekend in one sitting, and damn, did it live up to the hype. I've always been a sucker for a good... Read more
When I was told my 6.5-week IVF pregnancy wasn't viable, I was given a choice I didn't fully understand I was making. My doctor recommended misoprostol — fast, effective, appropriate... Read more
If, like me, you came up in the early 2000s, you were probably sold the idea that your vagina needed to smell like a spring meadow. Summer's Eve was in... Read more
I was deep in research for a column about the perimenopause supplement boom when I came across the TikTok trend: women taking Allegra and Pepcid together to manage hot flashes,... Read more
I should start by saying: my parents are nowhere near "old." They had me when they were 20, so if you do the math, they're barely old enough to be... Read more
I have never once, in my 37 years of life, cried after sex. Not after good sex, not after bad sex, not after the kind that genuinely moves you. It... Read more
May is Women's Health Month, which sounds celebratory... until you look at the numbers underneath it. Seven to ten years. That's the average time it takes to get an endometriosis... Read more